Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Neither stupid nor an idiot
I get emails from writers almost every day with one question or the other. I've been called anything from 'stupid' to 'an idiot who's taken advantage of''. To those who have given me these nicknames I want to say thank you and please don't hurt yourselves when I slam the door on your butts.
I'm neither stupid nor an idiot. I simply love helping writers because I am a writer and have felt the rejections, the shunning of friendship, the hardship of getting published, the stress of submitting, and so forth. I did not have a mentor nor a writing pal when I began my career and find those who have had the pleasure of meeting up with someone who was there for them makes a big difference in their careers. Perhaps not monetary but less stressful for sure.
I am assuming that the ones who feel the need to baptize me with a variety of names are those who are either hoggers, don't share information, believe themselves to be higher than thou, don't care about their fellow writers, afraid of me, or simply have no understanding of the meaning behind 'networking'.
Once upon a time this used to bother me, sitting for days allowing these negative folks get the best of me. Never again.
If I want to host a FREE online writers conference to help writers, I'll continue because it's not their time or effort that goes into it.
If I want to open my publishing houses and help writers it's not their right to dictate to me what I can or cannot do.
If I want to spend hours on the computer helping writers it's my choice, not theirs.
The reason for this post is to tell writers that you have a choice on how to manage your writing career. People with negative energy will eventually drown you if you allow them. There are many fine writers out there like me who are only more than willing to 'be there' for you. Find them. Join writer's groups. There are plenty of them around. If you feel the group is not a match for you, you're not married to it, leave and find another one.
It's easy to complain but hard to continue and pursue your career. Allowing negative feelings to continue will only stagnate and eventually stop your writing career altogether.
Only those who possess the passion for writing can understand the long hours you devote to your writing. Those who have no clue will never understand and you can turn blue in the face explaining this passion, but they will still not get it. Is it worth your effort to continue explaining, or do you simply ignore, shove the negative energy away, and turn your positive efforts back to what you love to do? I'm hoping you've chosen the latter. I know I have.
Posted by MuseItUp Publishing at 6:16 AM